It needs to carry on the corporal punishment child stage by stage improperly to educate children

It needs to carry on the corporal punishment child stage by stage improperly to educate children
It needs to carry on the corporal punishment child stage by stage improperly to educate children
It is good to interview the expert / combine art allly and intelligently treating the chief tutor, teacher's the Huang 's of national senior psychological consultation of the centre The child is badly cooked, do wrong, some parents know the corporal punishment or palm and slap children, do you know? Combine art treat the intersection of centre and chief tutor, national senior good to say house Huang, teacher of psychological consultation, while being intelligent while being all, parents come to require children with adaptive capacity at the speed of adult, when the result fail to reach the requirement, parents will be in the impetuous response, and the depression of making the child grown up. As the child grows up in a kind of family atmosphere constrained, the child's personality will be tended to not to be that a normality direction is developed. After such a child grows up, or high revolting nature, or self-value is belittled etc.. The corporal punishment child comes from high pressure reporters of parents' seeing on the net: Nana of the son three years old says, whenever the child make trouble or not have a meal at home, she will imprison the child in the room, ignores; Son, brightness of net friend, " Explode by oneself " ,If the child is not obedient, he will not leave hands, aches flat Job market's pressure often becomes the main reason why parents participate in the child. In addition good to show parents another kind of impetuous psychology come from the child assign elders lead family Huang, what the elder has not expected according to one's own heart is educated, " products " whose result comes out Just as oneself wish, can't blame elder, parents will come down in torrents dissatisfaction and sense of loss of heart at the child's body at this time. He points out, usually the punishment to child is divided into two kinds: Cold violence( Including the language, cold and detached, estranged, ignoring,etc.) ,Military the violence ' Including body injury,etc.) . No matter which kind, will hurt children. Role of child in the family, will come for this homemade trends through one's own behavior too, this depends on the child and relation between the parents are close and distant. "For example the relation among parents is without worldly desires, the child attracts parents' attention on behavior of will demonstrate the a series of one is naughtying, and it initiate parents that these behaviors will be known most probably anxious or angry, the result will cause parents' corporal punishment " . It shows, what parents need in the face of being impetuous is to say one's own idea out to the other side that the Huang 's is good, but not inhibit in heart, then is talking in whispers by oneself privately. If can't talk in the presence of some targets, then would need to choose to let the specialized psychological consultation teacher listen to your complaint. And here to find oneself settlement problem method or releive the feeling that oneself is constrained in the complaint. It needs to carry on effective guide stage by stage to educate child's breeding in need of going on to the child stage by stage, make children develop in a healthy way on the way of growing up. "0-3 years old builds constructing in child's rule and the first key period of the growth direction, it is in this each it let by child must know whether what be to wrong, what can do what to can't do, mean after child's violation to serious punishment (serious punishment here as violating the rule, deprive into the intersection of he and favorite thing, until beginning next time) " . The Huang 's is for example good, such as setting up the rule of the dining table for children, there is no meal to eat to leave the dining table, that has not eaten up and left the dining table when the child is having a meal, parents will accept the rice bowl soon, no matter why cry and scream, will give, answer meal this take again child, even if the child admits a fault at the mouth, can not eat again. Tell children: "Because have a meal and take and fortunately have a meal by the desk soon, you think the adults sit there eating, it proves you are quite full, certainly the bowl is harvested to have enough that you leave the desk, you are very good after admitting a fault, you are during the next meal, you will finish, but this meal can be eaten, because you have already made a mistake. " It is at 3 years old - 5 years old at the second stage, this period is the time that the child sets up the code of ethic. If this time has not let children set up, the child may be a person not observing the rule, lacking ethical consciousness after growing up. When the child's behavior is shown as a person who lacks the code of ethic, parents will feel most probably in front of others that there is not face, then the behavior of punishing the child will take place. So, should get hold of the child to guide in childhood two key periods, in this way it will just having one behavioural norm which society and the masses accept that the child is studying in the primary school, it is apter to dissolve the life of entering the school. Psychologist that the reporter has interviewed one to come back from Hong Kong and spoken to the consulting room happily before writing down notes, to that inland people are frightened " Psychologist " Like the current situation of the fierce tiger, he is very puzzled. He tell me whether people go, see psychologist seem that the body routine is checked to do ordinary in Hong Kong, a lot of psychologists and patients are all very good friends, not as " doctor " here at all With " patient " Relation. Doctor this tell me whether parents of Hong Kong meet pressure is difficult lead off, will all let the society worker convince by patient analysis voluntarily, and the society worker's role is similar to the psychologist of the community, so, a lot of family violence tragedies have already been dissolved before taking place. What deserves to be mentioned is, Hong Kong people attach great importance to making monobasic family's growth environment, even the child's own parents, if make any and curse and beat the behavior to the child, will all be charged by the law. As a reporter who once set foot in the educational field, know very well the home education was well-above coming from school or even the society to the importance that the child grew up. And the one that is regarded as the child " Teacher all one's life " Parentses,realizing by this. Chen XueMin


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